How many times have you thought, "I'd sure like to do __________________" only to quickly have that voice in your head tell you it's not a good idea.
And that voice gives you a reason, too. It's too risky. You'll probably fail. You'll fail because you're not smart enough, skilled enough, talented enough, strong enough, good enough. Deep down, at the base of every reason we don't do what we want to do, it's because we think we're not good enough. And that's so normal! If you have the "voice of reason" in your very own head telling you, logically, that the thing you want to do is actually a very bad idea, naturally, you'll want to not do that thing.
But I'd like to draw your attention to the Yoga Sutras, ancient sacred yoga texts. They say:
Book 2, Sutra 6: Egoism is the identification of the Seer with the instrument of seeing.
~ Patanjali, translated by Sri Swami Satchidananda
Ok. So what does that mean?
The Seer is you. Real you. Deep down, honest, you. The version of you that you might remember knowing when you were very young who could dance, sing, paint, run, learn...do anything. Become an entire human being out of a couple of cells. That's the power of the Real You. Your True Self.
The instrument of seeing is your body and your mind. It's your thoughts. It's that little voice in your head. In yoga, we call it the Ego.
It's your Ego who is telling you that you can't, when in reality, the Seer, the True You actually can.
Now, it might be a lot of work. It might require a lot of discipline. But don't let the voice tell you that you're incapable of doing the work, or that it won't be worth the risk. There are ways to make it work, some way, some how. Of this I am sure.
What would you do if you knew that at some point you'd be successful?
It doesn't have to be big. Maybe you'd like to ask someone out on a date, or read a really intense book you've been avoiding picking up. Maybe it is bigger, like learn to manage your finances and take control of your money.
What do you do?
Decide if this is something you really want! Set that Ego voice aside. What would it be like to do the thing and be successful? How would you feel? Tap into the quieter, more genuine voice that whispers below the howls of your Ego. It should feel supportive, thrilling, and just a little scary.
Start small. Figure out the first step. The first step is usually pretty doable.
Identify where you can get help. We have endless resources at our finger tips these days. Search online for "free tips to _______________" or "how to ________________."
Spend a little time inching closer each day. Set mini-goals so you can get used to feeling successful, and also get some good evidence you can use to tell that Ego voice to bugger off.
Practice your mantra. I am smart. I am capable. I am successful. I am a computer wiz. I am able to ask out anyone I want. Pick whatever mantra makes sense and say it over and over again. Feel it to be true in your bones.
Detach from the outcome. The closer and closer you get to reaching that goal, the clearer and clearer you're going to get on what's involved. You might be 100% successful, exactly as you initially imagined. However, your goal might evolve (and that's ok!), or you might just learn a really great lesson and become so much more happily comfortable with what you were doing before. There's such a difference to the feeling of, "I wish I could do something, but I can't because I'm not good enough. It's too risky." A opposed to, "I spent a year learning guitar and touring with a rock band, but realized that I don't really like guitar all that much and I missed my family, so I moved back home." That's not a failure at all.
If something is calling to you, it's worth exploring and bringing into your life, even if it's just in a small way. There's a reason for the calling. Don't let that Ego voice in your head tell you there's not a reason or it's not worth it. You may not be 100% successful in the way you had initially hoped, but that doesn't make it not worth trying, and it certainly doesn't make you unworthy.
Want more help? It's normal to feel overwhelmed when you decide to dig into your dreams. I got you. Set up a free mini-session with me and we'll talk it out.